The abuser is always the victim examines emotional cycles of pain and self-destruction through raw psychological honesty
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru’s new book explores the paradoxical relationship between love, abuse, and emotional dependency
Bucharest, Romania, 17th Oct 2025 – In his latest release, The abuser is always the victim, author Adrian Gabriel Dumitru offers an unflinching psychological and emotional exploration of toxic relationships, vulnerability, and the blurred lines between pain and affection. The book serves as a mirror reflecting the destructive yet deeply human patterns that occur when love and suffering become intertwined.
With his signature introspective style, Dumitru writes as both observer and participant, analyzing the dark corners of emotional entanglement where abuse and affection coexist. The result is a deeply moving and unsettling narrative that exposes the fragile balance between control, manipulation, and love.
Writing as self-therapy
Dumitru describes his work as a form of self-therapy, an attempt to heal through the act of writing. His essays and reflections capture the emotional chaos of a relationship that oscillates between tenderness and torment. The author admits his own complicity, recognizing that both partners play interchangeable roles — each becoming the abuser and the victim in a cycle that feels impossible to escape.
Through this deeply personal exploration, Dumitru reveals the uncomfortable truth that love, when mixed with pain and ego, can turn into an emotional prison. His writing does not seek to justify or excuse the behavior of either side but to understand it — to illuminate the emotional mechanisms that keep people trapped in harmful dynamics while still calling it love.
A raw look at toxic love
The abuser is always the victim goes beyond simple storytelling. It is a psychological and emotional confession that blurs the boundaries between literature and therapy. The author examines how love can mutate into control, how affection becomes a weapon, and how people continue to stay within destructive cycles even when they are aware of the damage being done.
Dumitru’s prose is haunting in its simplicity. He writes as if speaking to a wall, confessing his thoughts without shame or censorship. Every paragraph is infused with emotional truth — sometimes contradictory, sometimes painful, but always authentic. This honesty invites readers to reflect on their own emotional patterns, questioning the invisible roles they might play in their relationships.
Exploring duality and self-awareness
At its core, the book is an exploration of duality — a recurring theme in Dumitru’s writing. The author confronts the paradox that the one who hurts is also the one who suffers. Love becomes both poison and cure, and within that tension lies the essence of human complexity.
Dumitru’s reflections on emotional abuse and dependency extend beyond personal experience, offering universal insight into the human condition. His message is not about blame but about awareness — the recognition that healing begins with understanding the patterns that bind us.
A voice of psychological realism
Through his poetic yet analytical voice, Dumitru provides readers with an honest depiction of mental and emotional struggle. His approach combines emotional depth with psychological realism, offering a rare perspective on how people rationalize pain and reframe suffering as love.
This work continues Dumitru’s ongoing literary exploration of love, duality, and consciousness. Each of his books reflects a stage in his philosophical journey — from despair and confusion to self-reflection and understanding. The abuser is always the victim stands as one of his most emotionally raw and intellectually challenging works to date.
Available now on major digital platforms
The abuser is always the victim is now available for readers around the world through major online bookstores, including:
- Amazon Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=adrian+gabriel+dumitru&crid=9I59OV0IT3LF
- Google Play Books: https://play.google.com/store/books/details?id=kBmPEQAAQBAJ
- Apple Books: https://books.apple.com/ro/book/the-abuser-is-always-the-victim/id6753941734
Each platform provides direct access to Dumitru’s compelling essays on the psychological and emotional complexities of modern relationships.
About the author
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru is a Romanian author whose introspective works focus on human psychology, emotion, and the nature of duality. His writing blends poetic vulnerability with philosophical inquiry, often using personal experience to illuminate universal truths about love, pain, and consciousness.
Through his essays and reflective storytelling, Dumitru has become recognized for his deeply human approach to complex emotional subjects. The abuser is always the victim continues his literary exploration of the thin line between affection and destruction, guiding readers toward awareness and understanding through truth and emotional honesty.
Company Details
Organization: Dezibel Media
Contact Person: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Website: https://dezibelmedia.ro
Email: Send Email
City: Bucharest
Country: Romania
Release Id: 17102535561